Unconditional Love

Google defines unconditional love as, when you love someone no matter what they do and
have no expectation of repayment. It means you love someone for who they are, with no
strings attached. Oct 26, 2022

This is how I define unconditional love: It is silly to think that something, including love, can be
free of conditions. Although we can choose our response, everything has a cause and effect;
when one person does something wrong and causes the other pain, the relationship between
the two people will be subject to change, possibly for the better but more likely for the worse.
They might not have agreed to an explicit red line, on what conditions support them putting up
with each other. However, most relationships do not have such an understanding. It all
depends on how much you value your relationship with the other person. If you value it, you
will try not to cross the red line between you and the other person.

Last night I came to the realization why families frighten each other because of unconditional
love; whatever you do or say to your families they always take you back. Do you think this is a
good thing or is it a bad thing? Some family members abuse the other members because they
believe their families will always be there for them.

I think whoever came up with the concept never thought about both sides, the positive and the
negative of the concept. Take unconditional love as an example of what happens when people
receive a second chance over and over knowing they will never have to pay for their actions
and they know the other person will come his way. This is really ignoring the past (and present)
indicators and how they might influence the future.

Parents can be the worst people who give out a second chance to their children because the
children share their bloodline. Of course, we have to take care of them because they are our
blood. But there is a difference between coddling and preparing your children for their life
journey. Certainly, we are expected to provide a safe environment for our children, but
children need to learn from their mistakes, too.

If your family relationships become abusive, and you feel that your only choice to save yourself
is to fight or flee, then it is probably time to consider leaving. To help anyone we need to save
ourselves first. It is human basic instinct to revert to familiar patterns, sometimes wishing we
could pick up the telephone to call our families. It is easy to do. We need to pause and ask
ourselves whether the few minutes of pleasure is worth prolonging the pain. Remember how
much hard work it was for us to climb out of their black hole. When we value the relationship

we try to protect the relationship and we make sure we will not hurt it. When the relationships
are broken, we need to ask ourselves whether the relationship can be truly fixed.